In the first installment of the Bridal Party Problems series, we gave you tips to help you lock in a number for your bridal party. But, unfortunately, that’s not the last tough decision you will be faced with when it comes to your attendants. The most difficult choice will be choosing those special people who will stand next to you. While this decision is more challenging for some than others, it is a decision that is never made lightly. So, in this second installment check out these tips for ensuring that you choose the perfect people for the job, so to speak! Read on for these great tips!
1. Consider family
The first people to consider when making the decision of who will be in your bridal party are family members. Immediate family members usually will be the first to consider such as the bride and groom’s brothers and/or sisters or even parents. Many couples choose to include extended family members, as well, such as cousins. This is a fabulous way to show those closest to you how much they mean to you; however, if you have a larger family, sometimes the phrase all or none can be a good rule of thumb. The last thing a bride wants to do is hurt the feelings a family member who did not get asked. But, every family is different, and brides should do what is best for her particular family dynamic.
2. Choose lifelong friends
Once you’ve chosen the family that will be in the bridal party, it is time to decide on those best friends who will stand by you on your big day. Typically, this is the trickiest decision. No bride wants to hurt her friends feelings, and often times it can be very difficult to decide which friends to choose. One of the best things to think about when making this decision is to consider the time of your friendship. It can be extremely special to have friends next to you who have watched you grow up and been there through the ups and downs. Also, make sure you choose friends that you know you will stay close to for years to come. Your wedding is a day you will always remember, and you want to be able to share that memory with your bridal party forever.
3. Special role for everyone
If there are more people you want to incorporate than the bridal party number allows, don’t forget that those special friends can take on other honored roles. You will need one or more attendants to help guests sign in and leave gifts. On the groom’s side, he can choose a few more friends as ushers if he wishes. Also, you could consider have honorary bridesmaids and groomsmen. This special designation means that they can act as member of the bridal party for the majority of wedding; however, during the ceremony they will sit at the front instead of walking down the aisle and standing with the other bridal arty members. These friends can wear dresses and suits that are similar in color and/or style to the bridal party, and they can be specially signified with a corsage or boutonniere.
For more bridal party tips, check out the first installment in the Bridal Party Problems series. Also for more tips on choosing your bridesmaids, check out Pink Lady Andrea’s post, The Easy Guide to Choosing Your Bridesmaids.
Do you have any other tips to help brides decide how to choose their bridal party? We would love to hear them! Tell us in the comments below.
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