Newlyweds and soon-to-be-weds all over America often deal with tons of returns to address and too many of the same item once they return from the honeymoon. However, you don’t have to add to their stress! Instead, arm yourself with these five basic wedding gift giving tips to make your experience (and their elation) that much better!
1. Always pay attention to their bridal registry first.
The bride and groom spent hours setting up and monitoring their bridal gift registry. Instead of assuming they’ll absolutely need another set of bamboo serving spoons or an olive-colored pot holder set (when the kitchen theme will be in red), look at their registry first. If at all possible, choose a gift from the list there, and make sure you have the sales person check it off their registry as purchased. That cuts back on getting multiples of the same item or a slew of need-to-return items that just don’t match the bride and groom’s theme.
2. Think personal – but useful.
Try not to opt for décor items unless listed on the bridal registry. Let them pick out their own decorations. After all, tastes are so varied and unique. Instead, consider an item you’ve heard one of them mention or an item on their registry, and have it personalized. They’ll love your effort. They also won’t have to find out where to store a personalized item that obviously can’t be returned – but also isn’t something they’d use often in their new home.
3. Consider space limitations or restrictions the couple may have in their new home.
If the bride and groom will share a somewhat small space (especially if renting), there’s little reason to gift them with items that will require a storage building until they move into a bigger place. Instead, make sure the necessities are purchased for them first. (Check the registry or their wedding website to find out!) The only exception to this rule is, of course, if they’ve listed the item on their registry. Do make sure necessities are covered first, though!
4. Regifting is never the answer.
Regifting probably isn’t a smart idea when dealing with an already emotionally-charged event. From common friends who’ll remember that gift at your own shower last season to the dreaded “Hey…I gave you that!”…you just never know. But, for goodness sakes, if you do decide to be a regifter, at least remove all the “To” and “From” tags from the item first! (My husband and I got a regifted gift ourselves for our nuptials. The tag was delicately hidden just underneath the products in the box. Talk about feeling awkward after sending the gushing thank-you note!)
5. Cash really is an okay gift.
Cash gets a bad connotation around weddings. I get it; it’s considered tacky for a couple to request cash for their wedding instead of gifts, and to a point, I absolutely agree. If all else fails, though, cash really is a great option to help newlyweds get off on the right foot. After all, from the first few months of basic utility bills to completing their bridal registries at great discounts, the cash will go a long way towards happiness after their big day. Or, it could add to their honeymoon with a fabulous adventure or perk they couldn’t have otherwise afforded. Cash is among the most useful gifts you could give – moreso than even a gift card, because it can be used literally anywhere. Don’t mark it off your list!
By the way, if you plan to write a check as part of your gift, write it so either the bride or groom can deposit it. To do this, include an “or” in between the first names (i.e. Jack or Jill Smith).
What other tips do you have for wedding gift giving? Share them with me in the comments below!
Images courtesy of Kingsport wedding photographer, Rae of Light Photography Works.